Working Moms, You’re Not Failing, You Just Need the Right Village

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If you’re a working mother reading this, balancing conference calls with preschool pickups, multitasking between spreadsheets and snacks, navigating career goals while managing bedtime routines, I want you to pause and hear this clearly: You are not failing.

You're navigating a system that was never designed with working mothers in mind. And yet, somehow, you've been expected to do it all, with a smile, no sleep, and no safety net.

The pressure to be everything to everyone is not just unrealistic. It’s unsustainable. And you are not the problem. The absence of consistent, compassionate support is.

The Silent Weight of Invisible Labor

Sociologist Arlie Hochschild called it the “second shift”. The unpaid labor that begins when your paid job ends. The cooking, cleaning, managing schedules, booking doctor appointments, keeping track of who needs what and when. While modern partnerships are evolving, research continues to show that mothers shoulder the overwhelming majority of this invisible workload, even when both parents work full-time.

In a study published in Socius: Sociological Research for a Dynamic World, researchers found that working mothers spend nearly double the time on caregiving and household tasks compared to their male counterparts. Another study from Oklahoma State University revealed that mothers who internalize high expectations without sufficient support are more likely to experience burnout, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy. Let that sink in. Not because you should feel worse, but because you deserve to know the truth.

You Don’t Need to Do It Alone

At Nannies in the City, I’ve had the honor of working with extraordinary women. Executives. Entrepreneurs. Physicians. Educators. Women who are changing the world, while simultaneously folding laundry, arranging carpools, and soothing sick children in the middle of the night.

They aren’t hiring support because they’re weak. They’re hiring support because they’ve finally decided to stop running on empty.

They’ve decided that their presence matters more than their perfection.That rest is not a luxury, it’s a requirement.

When we match families with experienced, nurturing caregivers, we’re not just placing a nanny. We’re restoring a mother’s breath. We’re protecting a child’s well-being. We’re rebuilding the village that was always meant to be there.

You’re allowed to want mornings that don’t start in a panic.You’re allowed to want a peaceful bedtime routine that doesn’t leave you drained.You’re allowed to want help, even if everything looks fine from the outside.Especially then.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, stretched thin, or simply tired of doing it all, you’re not alone.

You deserve a team. You deserve relief. And you deserve to feel proud of the life you’re building without burning yourself out in the process.

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