Children experience emotions in a profound and raw way, particularly in their early years when they are learning how to understand and express themselves. During the formative years between infancy and age six, children develop the foundation for emotional regulation, empathy, and self-awareness. Big feelings—such as joy, frustration, sadness, and excitement—are not only normal but essential parts of child development. In this post, we’ll explore how caregivers and parents can support young children through these emotions, building resilience and emotional intelligence.
Young children feel emotions intensely because their brains are still developing the structures needed for emotional regulation. According to the Harvard Center on the Developing Child, the brain’s prefrontal cortex, which helps regulate emotions, continues maturing into early adulthood. For young children, this means they often experience strong emotions without fully understanding or managing them, which can lead to behaviors such as tantrums or sudden outbursts. Supporting children during these moments helps them build the foundation they need for effective emotional regulation later on.
Big feelings are a natural and healthy part of childhood, especially as children are learning to manage them.
Children, particularly in infancy, communicate emotions non-verbally. Infants may cry or make certain facial expressions to indicate hunger, discomfort, or joy. As they grow, toddlers and preschoolers might use behaviors—such as clinging, crying, or shouting—to express emotions they don’t yet have the words for. Research by the American Psychological Association (APA) suggests that active listening, including observing body language and responding with empathy, strengthens a child’s sense of security and emotional health.
By tuning into a child’s cues and validating their feelings, caregivers help the child feel seen and understood. Simple acknowledgments like, “I see that you’re upset,” or, “You seem frustrated,” teach children to connect their feelings with words, building emotional literacy.
Children learn through observation, and one of the most powerful ways they learn to manage their emotions is by watching the adults in their lives. The Child Mind Institute notes that when caregivers model calm and empathetic responses to their own emotions, children are more likely to develop similar responses. For example, if a caregiver expresses frustration calmly by taking deep breaths, children learn that deep breathing is a way to handle difficult emotions. Boundaries are essential for helping children understand acceptable behaviors while feeling safe and loved.
Loving boundaries can be set by calmly explaining the limits: “I know you’re upset, but hitting isn’t okay. Let’s find another way to show your feelings.” Following up with reassurance reinforces that their feelings are valid, even if their behavior isn’t.
Consistency in responses, routines, and boundaries provides children with a sense of security and predictability. Consistent routines and responses are fundamental in helping children develop self-regulation. When children know what to expect, they feel more secure and are better able to handle emotional fluctuations.
For example, a consistent bedtime routine that includes reading a story and talking about the day’s events can help children wind down and feel more in control. When emotions arise, caregivers who use similar language and methods each time (e.g., counting to three, using calm-down strategies) help reinforce coping mechanisms.
At Nannies in the City, we understand the importance of nurturing emotional development in young children. Our team of highly trained nannies and caregivers are not only skilled in providing safe, nurturing environments but are also well-versed in supporting children’s emotional needs. Through a holistic approach that emphasizes empathy, patience, and structure, we help children navigate their big feelings with confidence.
Our caregivers are trained in early childhood education, emotional support techniques, and mindfulness practices, ensuring that your child’s emotional growth is supported at every stage. We work closely with families to establish routines, model positive behaviors, and set compassionate boundaries that help children thrive.
If you’re interested in learning more about how our caregivers can support your family, feel free to reach out. At Nannies in the City, we’re here to help your child navigate their big feelings in a healthy, supportive way.
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Sources:
1. Harvard Center on the Developing Child. (2021). How Early Experiences Shape Brain Development. Retrieved from [https://developingchild.harvard.edu](https://developingchild.harvard.edu)
2. American Psychological Association. (2019). The Importance of Listening to Children’s Emotions. Retrieved from [https://www.apa.org](https://www.apa.org)
3. Child Mind Institute. (2021). How to Help Kids Develop Emotional Intelligence Through Modeling. Retrieved from [https://childmind.org](https://childmind.org)
4. Zero to Three. (2020). Setting Boundaries in Early Childhood. Retrieved from [https://www.zerotothree.org](https://www.zerotothree.org)
5. National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC). (2018). Why Consistency Matters in Child Development. Retrieved from [https://www.naeyc.org](https://www.naeyc.org)
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